We are all born equals. Equal in that at birth the endless possibilities are there before us. Forget social or political considerations, man is essential born, given breath and at that moment most would like to think we are equal.
What happens beyond that moment are the circumstances in which we continue to draw breath.
Some people accept their lot in life, others take every opportunity to remove themselves from their perceived misery and create a new life.
What does become clear as we grow is the fundamental flaw in mankind. Greed.
No matter how we go about our lives we are all subject to the pitfalls of greed.
It comes in so many ways, often when we are at our most unsuspecting selves.
I have had experiences in life that have changed me. They have not changed my sense of self, but rather have impacted greatly on the way I interact with others.
For me it has been a rude awakening to discover the person I think I am, did not measure up to others and so those respective persons decided that their goal in life was to change me to become a ‘better’ person.
They failed to understand we are who we are. Trying to change the nature of a person is a fruitless task, easier I would think to change tin into gold.
You can modify behaviours, make people aware of their actions but they are who they are.
In many cases it is the fault within a person that can make them so loveable.
We love the people we love because they are who they are, warts and all so to speak.
If you try to change them they cease to be who they are and you have most likely destroyed whatever relationship you had.
The loves in my life are people to whom I am attracted because they have a mind I love crawling inside of and who look at me and want to do something similar, though one hopes something slightly more physical!
My answer to the question raised by the prompt is that, the things that change the nature of a man are basically ignorance and an inability to see the virtues that live in the ones we love.
The result of all that is a person who is withdrawn, isolated, lacking in self esteem and doing all he can to avoid social situations for fear of suffering at the hands of those who want nothing but ‘for him to be the best person he can be’.
Morpethroad 