This was a perplexing task in that the obvious answer for me is to talk about myself again. I could discuss history repeating itself with the orange man, but we know all about that.
I was married for 23 years, and at the end of it, I vowed to myself that I would never allow myself to be in that oppressive situation again. It seemed a reasonable resolution to make as the abuse I suffered has been life changing and I am now the man I am.
I stuck to my resolution for quite some time. I did engage in another relationship, which at first was about love and equality. I found a mind to match it with myself.
Everything went along well until I began to notice that my new partner believing she was doing me a favour set about to change me into a ‘better’ version of me.
It wasn’t long before it dawned on me that the oppression of my marriage was being repeated in this new relationship albeit under a different guise.
So here was history repeating itself. Here was me feeling more and more crap because I was where I had vowed I never would be.
When it all ended, I did get some counselling and my counsellor, a lovely chap in himself, suggested the next time I decide to enter into a relationship that I run the idea past him to get a more objective view of what I might be letting myself in for.
I haven’t had cause to do that.