SoCS December 6/14 – In The Moment


This week’s word is ‘present’.

When I looked at this word and aware of the festive meaning for this time of year I did think of ‘present’ as in being present in a moment.

I had a conversation with an old neighbour this morning who told me his last hearing test was conducted by my daughter who is an audiometrist. He said the thing that makes a person stand out for him is that when he speaks to them they look him in the eye and respond accordingly.

It reminded me that often we are not ‘present’ when some people talk to us. For a multitude of reasons we zone out and catch only a few fleeting words of their conversation.

The art of conversation of being there with your fellow humans is not as easy as it seems. We often find ourselves distracted, we can appear rude, ignorant and just plain off with the fairies if we don’t concentrate on the chat at hand.

Actors are good at being present. Its called being in the moment. They are trained to be so, in order to be believable.

I saw a talk by Patsy Rodenburg in which she talked about actors being in the moment, being present and how powerful that can be on an audience. Here is a link if you would like to be enlightened, but you may need a tissue as well:

So todays SOC on ‘present’ has led me to this point. It’s a great word to discuss and I hope that in the Christmas context you all receive a present that will captivate your imagination, reinforce a love you treasure, give you a smile and or lead you to new discoveries.

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12 Responses to SoCS December 6/14 – In The Moment

  1. Helen Espinosa says:

    I never really contemplated that presence can make a better actor. Thought-provoking take on the prompt. Thank you for sharing. 😉

  2. Great post. I agree with your neighbor, but I must admit I do struggle with being easily distracted myself. That is rude, but sometimes I find myself doing it when I’m trying to avoid being rude to anyone — like trying to please everyone. Like if I’m talking to someone and another person interrupts, I find myself trying to hear both people when that really doesn’t make sense and isn’t fair to the first person. Trying to work on that…thanks for this reminder!

    • I know what you mean by having one conversation interrupted by another, its a bit annoying to be honest as you feel the first person is being cast aside.

    • shanjeniah says:

      With two children I spend lots of time with, I’ve learned to say, “Two ears; one brain”, when they’re both talking at the same time, and thinking I can hear them both.
      I’ve also gotten better at admitting (often to my Accomplice) that I wasn’t listening as well as I might have (especially when I’m really involved in my writing, so that my mind is elsewhere)…

      • I like that “two ears, one brain” statement — perfect way to phrase that, especially to kids. I’ll have to remember that…I also like just owning up to when you’re not fully listening. I’ve started trying to do that too but need to work on that more, otherwise people think I’m agreeing and whatnot when I don’t even remember what we discussed because I was distracted. To me, that should be evident, but I’m realizing it isn’t always, so it’s up to me to say so. Thanks for your thoughts on this! 🙂

  3. jetgirlcos says:

    In this age of “I-things” it’s getting harder and harder to disconnect and “be present” I think… Sadly.

  4. JackieP says:

    The art of listening is being forgotten in our society I think. And it is an art. You do need to be ‘present’ when someone is talking to you. I hate it when I talk to someone and you can see in their eyes that they have ‘tuned’ you out. I just stop mid-sentence and walk away. Maybe that is rude also, but it’s either that or get a bit angry. I’d rather walk away, but it does hurt one’s feelings to be ignored. A good reminder Michael.

  5. shanjeniah says:

    I’m much more present than I was when I was younger. I’ve dealt with my own emotional fracturing to a degree where I can often listen without translating others in terms of my own life- it does take presence to accept other people as themselves, and not through the lens of what I see them as…

    I think I’ll be developing deeper presence as long as I’m alive. At least, I hope I will.

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