I’ve known that to suffer is to grow.
Pain manifests itself in so many different ways.
The physical pain we can put our finger on, get treatment and hopefully recover.
Psychological pain is a whole different matter. Often we can’t explain it, it’s more how we feel. Like miserable but once explored, and this is not always an easy matter either, the subject of the pain can be addressed if not cured.
We all go through periods when we feel unwell, out of sorts, just not ourselves. We know so many of us find ways to express that pain, some cut themselves, some withdraw, some shut their minds to whatever it is through drugs and alcohol.
Not everyone gets the opportunity to become ‘enriched’ by it.
I think to become enriched requires us to be aware of what it is in the first place. Understanding and knowing ourselves and being honest about the feelings we are experiencing and most of all owning them can contribute to the enrichment process.
I don’t think I have always won when I’ve applied that to myself as each time it’s a whole new situation I have had to deal with and I’d admit I haven’t always dealt with them in any definitive way.
We like to practice denial. We like to think we can manage anything that comes our way as to admit you can’t often triggers feelings of failure and weakness.
The bottom line for me is knowing there are things I can control and things out of my control. As much as I’d like to, I can’t control everything.
The pain of disappointment and failure is always real. Understanding what that pain is helps us grow, enabling us to know where the fear is coming from and how we can deal with it in such a way as to not push us over the edge.