He told his kids that upon his death he was to be cremated not buried.
He had reasons for that decision.
He took his children to the cemetery and past all the new graves; all cared for and decorated with family memorabilia, were the old and neglected graves of people long dead.
“In twenty years my grave will be looking like all these people who were all good folk, loved at the time but over the years their loved ones are here with them. I want you to cremate me and make a shrine of some sort if you want to me in your own homes. It needs only be a photo or whatever you want.”
They listened to their father and like many children thought of their father as one who would live forever. The thought of him not being among them was not one they entertained.
But when the time came, they remembered his wish.