Writing Prompt #111 “Men” – Its Not Easy Being Male


It’s not easy being male

We are on any one-day


We are capable of the most heinous of actions

We have trouble understanding our masculinity

We have trouble relating to others

We fear being different,

We strive to be one of the boys

For being male is bothersome.

What if you don’t drink?

Don’t smoke?

What if you love your children?

What if your spouse loves the ground you stand on?

Its not easy being male

So many forces come into play

We have a part of us that jousts with our brain

That so often talks us into despicable acts.

We hear women refer to us as ‘being led by our dicks’.

But underneath the bravado

The posturing and the pretend

We are in need of love

Of nurturing

Of understanding.

We are despite our bad press from time to time

Capable of great love

Of acts of unbelievable compassion

To be there when a friend is down

To lift spirits and encourage.

For being a man is to defend our masculinity

To stand up for what is right

To act nobly in the face of adversity.

We are not all bastards and mongrels

Self centred and egotistical.

Some of us live to share our world

With family, loved ones,

Whom we nurture and support.

We crave connection

We want to belong.

Love us for who we are

Take time to find the man in your life.

Its not easy being male.

Written for: https://mindlovemiserysmenagerie.wordpress.com/2015/06/14/writing-prompt-111-men/

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29 Responses to Writing Prompt #111 “Men” – Its Not Easy Being Male

  1. love your post, Michael 🙂 yes, it’s not easy being male, I think so, too!

  2. Wonderful post Michael! It isn’t easy indeed men are given so many conflicting message be sensitive, don’t cry, be tough, don’t be aggressive it is enough to make your head spin!

  3. mandy says:

    “We are not all bastards and mongrels” This post (and this line) touches me so deeply, Michael. My blog is about healing from abuse and, unfortunately, that abuse has been by men. Most of my followers are abuse survivors, and their abuse has been by men–though some, men and women, have been equally abused by women. Through my own healing, my eyes have been opened to the fact that no, not all men are bastards and mongrels. You have so succinctly described what I have learned, that men can be wonderful. They have the same need for love, nurturing and understanding as women, and they are capable of giving that, also–and so much more. Thank you so very much, Michael for this post. I have an idea that you are, in fact, one of those men.

  4. phylor says:

    Yes, not all men are bastards, self-centered users and abusers. I think it’s time that the alpha male syndrome go the way of the corset!
    So many mixed messages — in movies, books, television.
    I think you shared what many men might hesitate — your inner self.

  5. DELL CLOVER says:

    I appreciate this, makes me a bit teary–as I just commented on someone else’s post that I have no need of men. And I don’t, but if one were to show up with the fine qualities you express–I’d at least offer him a meal.

  6. mj6969 says:

    Well written and spoken – I would not have to say – in your defense Michael – because it strikes me not that you are one of the madmen, mongrels and deplorable human beings walking this planet. And yes, the same – the last bit – applies to women and children too.

    You Michael – are a Prince amongst thieves 😀

  7. Believe me, it’s just as tough being a female! 🙂

  8. Susan Langer says:

    Very good poem that express the difficulties today in being male. My favorite lines were
    “We are not all bastards and mongrels
    Self centred and egotistical.”

  9. None of us are all good or all bad, but all of us need love and understanding. The fear and obligation of being loved and depended on is weighty. I see that in my hubby. And everyday he keeps going. For us. It’s huge. This was a great post !

  10. Very nicely done. Our nuts-o liberal society has a way of crushing both sexes. You’re absolutely right not all men bear horrible traits that are unforgivable. DH pointed out and I had never thought about it before that some women are not good at picking out a good man, but the bad man knows when he’s found a good woman. Unfortunately, he misuses her and then she gets burned time, and time again leaving behind hatred for all men. I am so blessed to have a fine husband who I love to the moon and back. He’s my best friend. The way he treats me is like a precious treasure. I don’t know what I did for God’s goodness to be poured out on me by giving me this wonderful, wonderful man, but I thank Him every day. Men need to stand up for what they believe is right and forget what liberals think they should or shouldn’t do. Women need to do the same. I’m am not a shame to be a total girly girl and am proud to be a SAHM for almost 27 years. Oh dear, this isn’t about me, though. I just wanted you to understand that I understood because women face the same concerns. The thing is I don’t let anyone sway be to be any different than I am. I like me just the way I am and let me say it goes against the ideal image of a modern woman way of thinking, too. Anywho, it was certainly nice meeting you through the Promote Your Blog hop hosted by Lori @ The Rattling Bones.

    Curious as a Cathy

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