It’s not easy being male
We are on any one-day
We are capable of the most heinous of actions
We have trouble understanding our masculinity
We have trouble relating to others
We fear being different,
We strive to be one of the boys
For being male is bothersome.
What if you don’t drink?
What if you love your children?
What if your spouse loves the ground you stand on?
Its not easy being male
So many forces come into play
We have a part of us that jousts with our brain
That so often talks us into despicable acts.
We hear women refer to us as ‘being led by our dicks’.
But underneath the bravado
The posturing and the pretend
We are in need of love
We are despite our bad press from time to time
Capable of great love
Of acts of unbelievable compassion
To be there when a friend is down
To lift spirits and encourage.
For being a man is to defend our masculinity
To stand up for what is right
To act nobly in the face of adversity.
We are not all bastards and mongrels
Self centred and egotistical.
Some of us live to share our world
With family, loved ones,
Whom we nurture and support.
We crave connection
We want to belong.
Love us for who we are
Take time to find the man in your life.
Its not easy being male.
Written for: https://mindlovemiserysmenagerie.wordpress.com/2015/06/14/writing-prompt-111-men/
love your post, Michael 🙂 yes, it’s not easy being male, I think so, too!
Thank you ladylee I appreciate your comment and for stopping by.
Wonderful post Michael! It isn’t easy indeed men are given so many conflicting message be sensitive, don’t cry, be tough, don’t be aggressive it is enough to make your head spin!
Yes indeed Yves, I think so too…..thanks for the great comment.
“We are not all bastards and mongrels” This post (and this line) touches me so deeply, Michael. My blog is about healing from abuse and, unfortunately, that abuse has been by men. Most of my followers are abuse survivors, and their abuse has been by men–though some, men and women, have been equally abused by women. Through my own healing, my eyes have been opened to the fact that no, not all men are bastards and mongrels. You have so succinctly described what I have learned, that men can be wonderful. They have the same need for love, nurturing and understanding as women, and they are capable of giving that, also–and so much more. Thank you so very much, Michael for this post. I have an idea that you are, in fact, one of those men.
Thank you Mandy that is a wonderfully affirming comment. I do try to be different from other men….
Something tells me that being different is what you do best, Michael. 😉
Yes, not all men are bastards, self-centered users and abusers. I think it’s time that the alpha male syndrome go the way of the corset!
So many mixed messages — in movies, books, television.
I think you shared what many men might hesitate — your inner self.
Thank you my friend, I did smile at ” I think it’s time that the alpha male syndrome go the way of the corset!” You don’t wear one?? I can remember my mother and grandmother wearing them terrible things I thought they were…
My mind has distinctly been in the 1700 and 1800s, so corset was the first thing that came to mind.
Me, I’d never wear such an instrument of torture!
Good, it pleases me you have such good sense.
Thank you. It’s not often that my name and good sense appear in the same sentence!
I appreciate this, makes me a bit teary–as I just commented on someone else’s post that I have no need of men. And I don’t, but if one were to show up with the fine qualities you express–I’d at least offer him a meal.
Thanks Dell, a meal even if its baked beans on toast would suffice, I can appreciate your comment of not being in need of men but we are not all bad, some of us even pick up after ourselves….
I wouldn’t mind the “picking up”–that’s small potatoes compared to the more egregious issues….
Yes I do understand….
Well written and spoken – I would not have to say – in your defense Michael – because it strikes me not that you are one of the madmen, mongrels and deplorable human beings walking this planet. And yes, the same – the last bit – applies to women and children too.
You Michael – are a Prince amongst thieves 😀
Oh you flatterer you…..thanks you for your kind words MJ, have a great evening…
Well Michael, if I didn’t sense and feel/intuit what I do – then I would not have written those words – so, flattery no – complimentary? 😉
Thank you MJ.
Believe me, it’s just as tough being a female! 🙂
Oh most definitely never would I think otherwise. Thank so much for stopping by.
Very good poem that express the difficulties today in being male. My favorite lines were
“We are not all bastards and mongrels
Self centred and egotistical.”
Thank you so much Susan.
None of us are all good or all bad, but all of us need love and understanding. The fear and obligation of being loved and depended on is weighty. I see that in my hubby. And everyday he keeps going. For us. It’s huge. This was a great post !
Thank you Brenda. Have a good day.
Have a great week!
Very nicely done. Our nuts-o liberal society has a way of crushing both sexes. You’re absolutely right not all men bear horrible traits that are unforgivable. DH pointed out and I had never thought about it before that some women are not good at picking out a good man, but the bad man knows when he’s found a good woman. Unfortunately, he misuses her and then she gets burned time, and time again leaving behind hatred for all men. I am so blessed to have a fine husband who I love to the moon and back. He’s my best friend. The way he treats me is like a precious treasure. I don’t know what I did for God’s goodness to be poured out on me by giving me this wonderful, wonderful man, but I thank Him every day. Men need to stand up for what they believe is right and forget what liberals think they should or shouldn’t do. Women need to do the same. I’m am not a shame to be a total girly girl and am proud to be a SAHM for almost 27 years. Oh dear, this isn’t about me, though. I just wanted you to understand that I understood because women face the same concerns. The thing is I don’t let anyone sway be to be any different than I am. I like me just the way I am and let me say it goes against the ideal image of a modern woman way of thinking, too. Anywho, it was certainly nice meeting you through the Promote Your Blog hop hosted by Lori @ The Rattling Bones.
Curious as a Cathy
Thank you so much Cathy, I greatly appreciate your comment, you sound as though you have hit the jackpot in marriage….I am envious…