For as long as people have existed and thought about how they are feeling they have quickly understood the power of the mood.

For some people the idea that you can be in a bad mood forever is very appealing, as they perceive their mood will keep the world well away from their door.

The human desire to be in a good mood is a constant battle.

It is a bit like happiness.

You can achieve snippets of it but then for a variety of reasons it slips away from you.

That we experience a bad mood and want to say that the weather was a contributing factor could well be true.

That it rained all day and you couldn’t get out and were therefore confined’ to barracks’ so to speak could very well influence the mood you might be in.

Some people might love the idea of being inside on a wet day with a good book to read.

Being male and having the experienced the gamut of female emotions and moods I would probably say the female emotion is likely to be more volatile than the male.

That is not to deny that we males cannot be moody souls ourselves. A male’s bad mood is always destructive to himself and everyone around him.

For women there are extenuating circumstances, and lets admit that they do have to put up with a lot.

Biologically there are factors such as that time of the month where some women quite rightly feel a bit under the weather and have every right to be in a bad mood.

There are the factors of having to live in the same house, as a man who maybe doesn’t pay them enough attention, who leaves his stuff on the floor, who mistakenly believes he is right and the perpetrator of the greatest sin any man can commit, leaving the toilet seat up.

The man who thinks he is right is just plain kidding himself, for the law of averages will eventually catch up with him and point out to him very loudly the error of his ways.

Underneath this situation is understanding the mood.

I don’t think a person’s mood is the cause of the weather. The weather may not help how you feel but behind it there is another reason which the person afflicted by the mood may very well be happy to deny, deny for as long it takes for people to accept his/her mood.

Learning to understand how you mind works and responds to given situations is a life long task.

It’s never easy to admit you have an issue with yourself. It is easier to admit in very empathetic ways that you have plenty of issues with the people around you.

For many years I was married to a person who took the path that everything was ultimately my fault. That she set fire to the garbage bin one night and over the next half hour was able to convince me that it was actually my fault that the bin had caught on fire only served to reinforce the notion that no matter what path of argument I took eventually I would be held responsible and she would ‘quite rightly’ be the innocent party in any given situation.

Being human means we experience the full range of emotions in our everyday life. A good mood in the morning, feeling positive about the day ahead, can quickly come crashing down around you when you get to the train station and discover the train is delayed an hour.

Waking and feeling you are not happy with the world can set the path for your day. Sometimes the people you live with can spark you into action and you can revise the early morning mood and take on a much more pleasant outlook towards the day.

No matter what is happening to you, understanding the mood you are in and being able to deal with it is important. Never easy but important because most of us would like to think that we are ok people to be around.

We want the ones we love to be ok as well.

Therefore to be able to listen to concerns of a loved one is always a winner.

Not always can someone solve the issue you might have with the world, but that we are here for you, supportive and willing to take time to hear you out can only help you in those moments where it all seems too hard and too impossible.

And if none of that works, there is always the spare bed!